5 Steps for Learning Negativity
Looking for something wrong is a habit…
5 Steps for Learning Negativity:
- Exposed to: At a young age we take in everything that we are exposed to just like sponges, with no critical assessment. We are told what is good, bad, right, wrong and are shown examples by having them pointed out, demonstrated, or having these labels used to reference us.
- Validation: We begin to look for examples of what we’ve been shown as proof, and/or we imitate the negative ways of acting that have been demonstrated to us. The use of negative as descriptors begins to become something to do.
- Identification: This is furthered by focusing on events which are beginning to be filtered through biased viewpoints, and choosing to act and to tell stories with the resulting thoughts, making use of our own labels and descriptions of negatives. The negatives are becoming familiar and we are starting to recognize who we are in comparison to our newly created uses of description. This is how we identify ourselves as being a someone, how we come to exist, watching & acting through the eyes of a sense of self, an ego. We become a “Who,” by creating a relationship between environment, others and our roles. Our experiences of these – is “Identification.”
- Automation: By acting as if one’s thoughts (and the story you are telling yourself) are real, behaviour (that is not being consciously supervised), goes on autopilot. The negative behaviour becomes a form of expectation; an automatic, subconscious way of referencing and a habitual way of experiencing the world.
- Investment and Habituation: As one experiences negativity over a period of time, that individual becomes more familiar with negativity. By taking the positive for granted and using positive labels and descriptions less often, we become less familiar with the positives, until it becomes very difficult to even experience positives at all. This occurs because the subconscious filters what we see and experience, based upon what we predominantly focus on in life, in imagination and in thought. Like an actor, who becomes totally immersed in his or her part, people may become so unaware of playing the roles, that they become unable to separate the character from the rest of reality, what actually exists in their life. By believing as if the story one is telling and thereby living is in fact real, one reinforces a more negative destiny. This preoccupation with negativity becomes so consuming it makes each experience of a positive become less & less fulfilling! Creating negative stories begins to lose strength of intensity (a powerful motivator in any form of addiction including negativity) and the stories are grasped at even more fervently, because of giving less ego reinforcement. As an example: The great method actor Anthony Hopkins after having played the role of Hannibal Lector in “Silence of the Lambs” said that it took months to get the Hannibal Lector thoughts out of his mind (his skilled use of method acting = patterned way of thinking).
…It often takes becoming someone else, to relieve such powerfully negative ways of thinking.