The Fallacy of New Age Self-Forgiveness

Shi Yao Lian/ March 22, 2017/ Consciousness Growth, Healing, Love and Understanding/ 0 comments

Every time I’m on Facebook lately, I see many well-intentioned but misunderstood shared posts encouraging the same theme. It’s usually something to do with self-forgiveness, not looking back and only looking forward, and not dwelling on mistakes. The truth is, none of these strategies really work the way people think and want them to work. Mostly, this kind of thinking acts as a defense mechanism for a person’s ego. There may be guilt or shame around past actions,

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Is the Road Ahead Misery?

Shi Yao Hai/ March 15, 2017/ Consciousness Growth, Happiness, Understanding Mind/ 0 comments

If you think your road ahead is misery, it is better to not go there in the first place. But if you have to go there, rename your destination. If you think that the where you are going is misery, you will only shut yourself down and stop creating your life with the elements of living from life. Instead, if you are choosing the where to be creatively and with determination, and not with emotional interpretations of unfinished

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Be Here

Shi Yao Hai/ March 10, 2017/ Happiness, Love and Understanding, Understanding Mind/ 0 comments

The root of all mental illness that is not caused by physical poisoning or traumatic physical injury, arises from learning to live in one’s mind, and not in life simply as it exists. This is living in the past and the future, which can only happen in one’s mind. All such holding on mentally to the past and the future is not living in the moment. This is the crux of Buddha’s psychology. But how do you let go

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How to Meditate Like a Buddhist Yogin

Shi Yao Hai/ March 5, 2017/ Consciousness Growth, Meditation and Mindfulness, Understanding Mind/ 0 comments

When Buddha began to teach, mindfulness and calmness meditation were taught separately by other teachers of that time. Buddha had noted that both where useful tools, but they did not in themselves assist in changing consciousness. Without changing consciousness in a sustainable way, the benefits of both mindfulness and calmness meditation were short-lived. There would be some residual clarity or calmness respectively, but these would pass fairly quickly upon returning to the regular activities of life. Most importantly

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How to Use Words to Change / Create Your Experience

Shi Yao Hai/ February 18, 2017/ Consciousness Growth, Happiness, Understanding Mind/ 0 comments

You are where you are in life, because of your words. Sounds strange, doesn’t it? But it is how you use the meanings that are evoked by your words that cause your experience of life. All of the “conversations” you’ve had in the past… led to all of the decisions that came out of those conversations… which led to all of the actions (that were mostly reactions), that had their roots in those decisions. And all of this

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Unraveling Karma and Creating Happiness

Shi Yao Hai/ February 4, 2017/ Consciousness Growth, Happiness, Understanding Mind/ 0 comments

Unlike other systemized teachings in the time of Buddha which taught that karma was externally caused, Buddha taught that karma was caused by an individual’s own personal choices. More precisely, the making of or not making of skillful choices. The Sanskrit word karma literally means “action.” Karma also denotes change, movement of energy, and implies state or form of existence. Karma is the secret of the Buddha’s teachings on impermanence. If it were not for all existence being

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